Monday, June 28, 2010

prayer...










My friend Shawn Holtgren and I meet on a weekly basis for accountability, encouragement, advice, & prayer. God uses him in a tremendous way in my life. We've been meeting since January of 1996 with the exception of the 4 years I lived in Wisconsin. Recently my heart has been stirred towards making prayer a more intentional focus in my relationship with God. The other day, Shawn shared this quote with me and I've found it to be incredibly helpful in my times of prayer. I thought I'd share it with you...

Fenelon's Formula for Prayer:

"You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart." Jer. 29:13

Is your prayer life consistent? Is it rich and rewarding? Do you see measurable growth in it? If not, Francois Fenelon, a 17th-century Frenchman, tell us how to pray and get results. It's a tried and true formula worth following:

"Tell God all that is in your heart, as one unloads one's heart, its pleasures and its pains, to a dear friend. Tell Him your troubles that He may comfort you; tell Him your longings that He may purify them; tell Him your dislikes that He may help you conquer them; tell Him your temptations that He may shield you from them; show Him the wounds of your soul that He may heal them; lay bare your indifference to good, your depraved taste for evil, your instability. Tell Him how self-love makes you unjust to others, how vanity tempts you to be insincere, how pride troubles, there will be no lack of what to say. You will never exhaust the subject, for it is continually being renewed. People who have no secrets from each other never want for subjects of conversation. They do not weigh their words for there is nothing to be held back. Neither do they seek for something to say. They talk out of the abundance of their heart. Without consideration, they simply say just what they think. When they ask, they ask in faith, confident that they will be heard. Blessed are those who attain such familiar, unreserved communication with God."

Monday, June 21, 2010

legacy...

As a youth pastor I used to attend the National Youth Workers Conventions almost every year. As a result I encountered the founder of the NYWC, Mike Yaconelli. I was so inspired by Mike because he was a man who could passionately verbalize what so many of us felt about the church. Now as a church planter I maintain that I'm just going to be a youth pastor to adults. My heart still resonates with Mike's words for the church as I believe he speaks so much truth of how the church should really look and what we should really be all about. May that passion and perspective never die.

A few years ago, Mike was tragically killed in a car accident. I was devastated, but the words that God laid on his heart live on and continue throughout youth workers and new churches all over the world. God used Mike in the hearts of so many of us, and his legacy continues.

open...


This last week, during my personal prayer time, I began praying, "God, would You move in our midst and pour yourself out in our Gatherings in such a way that we can't miss You?"

Last Sunday we showed up to the school an hour and a half before our Gathering started only to discover that we didn't have power. The storms that came through on Friday left many homes and buildings without power. The school had a generator back up but it was only enough power to flush a few toilets and turn on a couple lights. I was so proud of the resilient attitude of our church. We looked things over and quickly reassessed what our Gathering would entail for the day. Instead of focusing on what we didn't have we got pretty excited about what did have.

1. We had a beautiful day.
2. We had an overhang outdoors that would hold everyone and protect us from the direct sunlight.
3. We still had use of the restrooms.
4. We had a wonderful playground on the other side of the school for the kids to play on after their lesson.
5. We have portable chairs, and tables that we could just move outside.
6. We have an incredibly gifted and flexible worship team that was able to put together an acoustic set on the fly. They had to come up with songs that were a little more familiar from their original set list. Then Our drummer realized that he had some paint buckets in his car (which sounded really cool). The custodian allowed us to use an acoustic piano that was on rollers in the music room. We had an acoustic guitar and singers with great hearts and voices.
7. We had a children's ministry that was able to adapt and still make things run with excellence. I heard one of our kids say, this was the best Sunday ever, I wish we could do this every week.
8. We had a Gathering that was full of people that saw this as an opportunity rather than an obstacle and they were grateful for the opportunity to still gather for worship.
9. We had prayer. Prior to our Gathering many of us prayed and thanked God for this opportunity. We asked that He would be our focus and that He would still bring the people.

Afterwards I had so many people comment on what an incredible experience it was. Some even asked if we could do that more often! The presence of God was evident and it was so simple and different. I was reminded at how often I seem to put God in a box and expect Him to work according to MY plans, MY comfort zones and MY traditions. As if to say God can't work outside the lines that I've drawn in the sand. In reality God doesn't need for me to figure everything out for Him, all He needs from me is an open heart!

Monday, June 14, 2010

husbands...

Last weekend I had the privilege of being in West Virginia with my family to preside over the wedding of a really special couple. It was honestly one of the best weddings and receptions that I have been a part of. Way to go Martin & Ashley!

This weekend at Epic, we’re going to do something special for Father’s Day. We’re putting together a Father’s Day Panel. We will have 6 fathers from different stages in life, come up for an interview with my wife. This could get a little rowdy so you wont want to miss it!

As I reflect on last weekend and consider this weekend, I'm reminded of an article that I recently read. The article shares 10 things husbands say that they want from their wives. I’m often reminded that I’m a much better father when I’m a better husband. I’ve also discovered that I’m not able to be the best father or husband without help from others…especially my wife. Nobody has a perfect family or marriage, but I think it is so imperative that we keep intentionally working on it together. So with that in mind, I share this with you:

Top 10 Things Husbands Want From Their Wives
What Men Want From Marriage
By Sheri & Bob Stritof

In no particular order, here are ten things that many husbands want from their wives.
Note that these are "wants" -- not emotional needs. As individuals, we are each responsible for filling our own emotional needs.
We believe that the four basic emotional needs are the need to be loved and to love; the need to belong; the need for a good self-image; and the need for autonomy.


1. Believe in His Capabilities
Many men believe it is important for them to protect and provide for those they love. Let him know that you believe in his talents and skills and are supportive of him.

2. Understanding
One of the ways you can both tell and show your husband that you want to understand him is by making a commitment to daily dialogue with him. Daily dialogue only takes 20 minutes out of your day. Isn't your husband worth 20 minutes each day?

3. Affirmation of His Accomplishments
Most guys like to be patted on the back. Compliment your husband often. Just don't over do it with sicky sweet oozes of how great he is. That type of affirmation will backfire.

4. Acceptance
Many husbands are hurt and angered when their wives try to change them. Realize that the only person that you can change is yourself.

5. Less Chatter
If your husband is tired, or involved with a project, and you really want to talk to him about something, get to the point. If he wants the details of the topic, he will ask for them.

6. Affection
Hold your husband's hand in public, leave a message of love on his voice mail, massage his shoulders, give him an unexpected kiss. Men like to be romanced too!

7. Respect
Show respect for your husband by not making negative comments about his thoughts and opinions, by being considerate of his plans, and by avoiding the "eye roll" when listening to him.

8. Free Time
Most everyone has a desire for some quiet time alone, and time to re-energize, regroup, and reconnect. When your husband first gets home from work, allow him some free time to unwind. Don't over-schedule his days off with projects around the house.

9. Trust
Trust is vital in the success of a marriage. If you are having doubts about your husband and find it difficult to trust him, seek counseling and not spying.

10. To Be a Companion
Hopefully, you can say that your husband is not only your lover, but also your friend. Staying friends and companions through the years requires that you find ways to make time together and to do things together.

Also, for you guys reading this, here is the followup link for things that wives want from their husbands:

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

tornadoes...



























A few months ago, my wife Ann, my daughter and I were invited to go with our neighbors and their daughter, for a weekend away at the Maumee Bay Lodge and State Park near Toledo, Ohio right on Lake Erie. The place was absolutely beautiful and I would highly recommend it for a family.


Saturday ended up becoming a very full and tiring day as we spent 5 hours at the Toledo Zoo (an amazing zoo by the way...I think I liked it even better than the San Diego Zoo). After dinner, we enjoyed taking the girls swimming and on our way out we stopped by to treat ourselves to ice cream. My daughter loves Super Man Ice Cream and ate as much as her little tummy could handle. The girls were pretty exhausted so it was time to take them back to the cabin that we had rented together and put them to bed. Caitlin was so tired that she fell asleep as I was praying with her. After the girls were in bed the adults decided to go sit on the porch and play a card game to relax and unwind.

Around 10:30 we heard the emergency siren go off, so we quickly turned on the news only to discover that we were under a Tornado Warning. In fact there were reports of houses being destroyed and some fatalities. We didn't have a basement in the cabin, so the instructions said that we were simply to climb under the cabin. That wasn't happening with a 7 month pregnant wife, so we quickly headed for the Lodge (which was like a large hotel). When I get to the front desk, we asked where are we are supposed to go for a Tornado Warning. To my surprise, the clerk very non-chalantly said, "Well if there is a Tornado Warning we'll let you know." To which I said, "Didn't you hear the sirens aren't you watching the news?" She soon discovered that there was indeed a storm warning but then said, if the Tornado touches down within 50 miles then we will evacuate the people to the center hallway in the lodge. We'll keep you posted. I then went and sat in the lobby for a few minutes and watched the television news. It appeared that a big Tornado had touched down nearby and the storm was indeed coming towards us, but then I thought, I'm not from here, what do I know. Then flashes from the movie Titanic went through my head and the thought came to my mind..."Never entrust your life to those whose priority of business is dependent on your comfort." I scooped up my daughter (who is so exhausted she's sleeping through this whole ordeal) and I told my wife, "Come on let's go to the center hallway" and we went there with our neighbors not far behind us. Not long after another lady decides to come and sit in the hallway as well. Several minutes pass and the lights start to flicker and the fire doors automatically shut briskly in the hallway. Now with a great sense of urgency I see see the staff from the lodge running from door to door, knocking and yelling, "Tornado Warning" and within a matter minutes they begin trying to pack a few hundred people into this hallway. We even watched as a bride still in her wedding gown accompanied by her new husband struggled to step around people down the center of the hallway as she received a thunderous applause and hooting and hollering from many of the amused evacuees in the hallway. Meanwhile I'm praying and holding my daughter (who's still sleeping through all of this) and the lights go out for what seems like an eternity. It was pitch black and so I huddled over my daughter drawing her closer for protection and continued to pray under my breath. Within a few moments the lights came on and the Tornado Warning ended. It was all over...or so we thought.

The local news began to report that we could expect a bigger storm front around 3am. Despite her fatigue my wife, was unable to sleep so she sat by the Television. On the other hand I took a Benadryl to deal with my allergies and quickly joined my daughter in her hibernation-like state. Around 2:30 am the storm was about to come over us, and the Meteroligist said, it appears that it's just going to be Severe Thunderstorms but would have winds up to 90 miles per hour. Just as Ann was about to turn off the television the Meterologist says, "Wait we just spotted rotation, and the storm is gaining speed moving along at 60 miles per hour. If you're in Lucas County, take cover immediately. You don't have much time. If a tornado is developing, it could be right on top of you now." Somehow I woke up from my deep slumber and heard this on the television and just as Ann came to wake me up, I scooped up Caitlin for round two. Ann quickly ran to tell our friends that we need to go as I headed out the door. I was immediately met with a significant gust of wind and my face began to sting from the pelting rain. We jumped into the car once again to head for the lodge. Struggling to see out the windshield as my wipers struggled to keep up with the pace of the rain hitting the window I raced to the lodge. I quickly pulled the car in front of the lodge, carelessly parking it in the unloading zone and walked briskly past the front desk clerk who observes us heading towards the center hallway. We heard from the television in hotel lobby that a tornado was sited not far from us, but then dissappeared, or at least they lost track of it. Moments later our friends arrive and we again huddled in the hallway - only this time we are all alone. I'm praying as this seems all the more real and disturbing. We could hear the wind roaring outside and the rain stomping on the top of the roof. Praying and feeling helpless, wanting to protect my family but unable to do anything else, I suddenly had a sense that we were in the Hands of Our Heavenly Father and He is in control.

When I returned home I received a Facebook Message from Karleen one of the College Graduates who is a part of Epic. She had sent this to me shortly before I left for our trip but I didn't see it until I returned. It said:

"Jeremy and Ann,
You've been on my heart a lot over the past week and I just wanted to write and let you know I've been praying for you both!

Psalm 91:1-4
"Those who live in the shelter of the Most High will find rest in the shadow of the Almighty. This I declare about the LORD: He alone is my refuge, my place of safety; he is my God, and I trust Him. For he will rescue you from every trap and protect you from deadly disease. He will cover you with his feathers. He will shelter you with his wings. His faithful promises are your armor and protection..."
Apparently it wasn't our time to go and be with Jesus...yet.

The next day we discovered that the Tornadoes had touched down in several places and wreaked severe damage. The early reports said that it was an EF3 Tornado with around 190 MPH winds and it had wrecked over 50 homes in a nearby town. Additionally there were reported wide spread wind gusts that had reached up to 90mph. A local high school (about 12 miles away) had been utterly destroyed 12 hours prior to their graduation ceremony. Several had been injured, 5 were confirmed dead and there was over 100 million dollars of damage that had been done.

I later read that among the 5 that had been killed in the Tornadoes, a little four year old and his mother (the same age as my daughter) were going into the police station, seeking cover and they were sucked up by the Tornado before they could get into the station.

As we drove by the high school, my heart ached for the families that are left to pick up the pieces. I later learned that the father of the valedictorian of the 2010 class at Lake High School was also killed in the storm. It's more than a news report somewhere in the world. It's real people, in a real community, trying to pick up the pieces from the devastation - physically, emotionally and spiritually.

I'm reminded that even without the literal storms, wind gusts and tornadoes there are real people all around us who are just trying to hang on, trying to seek shelter, in hope of a rescue. I'd invite you to join with me in praying for the families in Ohio who have been devastated by this storm. And I would invite you to pray and be the beacon of hope for those in "our backyards" who are also desperately searching for something more.

Here is a link to the news footage that shows the aftermath:

http://abclocal.go.com/wtvg/video?id=7481796

Also a link to an article about it: http://toledoblade.com/article/20100608/NEWS16/6080421/0/SPORTS09