Last weekend I had the privilege of being in West Virginia with my family to preside over the wedding of a really special couple. It was honestly one of the best weddings and receptions that I have been a part of. Way to go Martin & Ashley!This weekend at Epic, we’re going to do something special for Father’s Day. We’re putting together a Father’s Day Panel. We will have 6 fathers from different stages in life, come up for an interview with my wife. This could get a little rowdy so you wont want to miss it!
As I reflect on last weekend and consider this weekend, I'm reminded of an article that I recently read. The article shares 10 things husbands say that they want from their wives. I’m often reminded that I’m a much better father when I’m a better husband. I’ve also discovered that I’m not able to be the best father or husband without help from others…especially my wife. Nobody has a perfect family or marriage, but I think it is so imperative that we keep intentionally working on it together. So with that in mind, I share this with you:
Top 10 Things Husbands Want From Their Wives
What Men Want From Marriage
By Sheri & Bob Stritof
In no particular order, here are ten things that many husbands want from their wives.
Note that these are "wants" -- not emotional needs. As individuals, we are each responsible for filling our own emotional needs.
We believe that the four basic emotional needs are the need to be loved and to love; the need to belong; the need for a good self-image; and the need for autonomy.
1. Believe in His Capabilities
Many men believe it is important for them to protect and provide for those they love. Let him know that you believe in his talents and skills and are supportive of him.
2. Understanding
One of the ways you can both tell and show your husband that you want to understand him is by making a commitment to daily dialogue with him. Daily dialogue only takes 20 minutes out of your day. Isn't your husband worth 20 minutes each day?
3. Affirmation of His Accomplishments
Most guys like to be patted on the back. Compliment your husband often. Just don't over do it with sicky sweet oozes of how great he is. That type of affirmation will backfire.
4. Acceptance
Many husbands are hurt and angered when their wives try to change them. Realize that the only person that you can change is yourself.
5. Less Chatter
If your husband is tired, or involved with a project, and you really want to talk to him about something, get to the point. If he wants the details of the topic, he will ask for them.
6. Affection
Hold your husband's hand in public, leave a message of love on his voice mail, massage his shoulders, give him an unexpected kiss. Men like to be romanced too!
7. Respect
Show respect for your husband by not making negative comments about his thoughts and opinions, by being considerate of his plans, and by avoiding the "eye roll" when listening to him.
8. Free Time
Most everyone has a desire for some quiet time alone, and time to re-energize, regroup, and reconnect. When your husband first gets home from work, allow him some free time to unwind. Don't over-schedule his days off with projects around the house.
9. Trust
Trust is vital in the success of a marriage. If you are having doubts about your husband and find it difficult to trust him, seek counseling and not spying.
10. To Be a Companion
Hopefully, you can say that your husband is not only your lover, but also your friend. Staying friends and companions through the years requires that you find ways to make time together and to do things together.
Also, for you guys reading this, here is the followup link for things that wives want from their husbands:
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